A Girl's Letter

Dear Men,

In this letter I haven't the slightest Idea what I'm gonna write But whatever it will be will be straight From my heart!

I have tried to open my heart out to all you guys since a long time but as you all may be knowing you make it so difficult for all us girls to do that by your pet dialogue "WE ARE THAT WAY...WE ARE BUILD TO BEHAVE THAT WAY" so I would first like to say if you say what you behave with us is because of that Testosterone then I must tell you that even girls have a rush of that hormone but they don't stare at your private the way you stare at our privates. You would never know what we feel like when you stare us like you are gonna eat it up! We're not walking pieces of meat that you can devour. That totally makes us feel like kicking between your legs.



The second thing I want to talk about to you is that you people "judge" girls on their beauty....Grade them, rank them! Who the hell has given you the right to do that! You are not the one who has given us birth. "If you want a girl as beautiful as Angelina Jolie Then first you too should look like Brad Pitt" First look at yourself in the mirror then come to judge us on our size, weight, color, face or anything that you consider. I've been through times when I pass by some boys with my gang and see boys choosing which girl they like...I mean WTF! First ask us if you are worthy to be chosen! It's just pathetic...

One of the most important thing i wanted to mention... Actually not mention But I have a question "Have you got any respect for feelings?" You treat girls like they are nothing but just dolls...Play with them and when you get bored leave them! I won't say bring your Sisters and mothers in between but yeah What if you were a girl and someone did that to you? Just think about it.... You would write thousands of quotes on girls about how they broke your heart and blah blah but when it comes to you a girl's heart doesn't matter at all right? Sex is one part of love but it isn't the whole as most of you think...Actually for some of you love is just nothing For you only sex matters...And you even get "Bored".



Yes I will say my parents ARE afraid to let me hangout late till night...they are afraid when they see me texting to a boy....My mom is afraid when i choose a sleeveless dress or a short dress...She is afraid when I style more or make a new hairstyle or I wax or i go to parlor ..She is afraid that one of you is there who will break my heart and yes I too am afraid of that. I am afraid to eat a lollipop or an ice cream or a cream roll....I am afraid to even walk on the streets...I am afraid one of you will pass by touching me making me feel uncomfortable. I am afraid to even look straight..i am afraid i might catch you trash talking about me or my friend or might catch you giving those dirty expression...I have many more fears But i would end here. Maybe this would be enough...Maybe it will never be enough but i have just one wish that you people get a life. that I or any other girl would have to ever worry about such pathetic things ever.

Sincerely,
Just one more (un)afraid girl.

[P.S.: I got the idea to write such post when I saw this article: dear fellow folks on 18 till i die I'm following this blog. i hope you like my version Though I can never touch her writing standard :P]

Confession Of a "Blessed Daughter"

When I was born It's obvious I was too small to know that I am a girl or a boy...But my parents knew very well....I was there first child and for my family I was the second child...the second Girl child! Many people would have been disappointed to see a girl child "AGAIN". But this was not the case with my family...They celebrated my birth... And I think God was too happy with my family for this and thus blessed it with three more girl children after me...!!!



"Kitne dukh ki baat hai" a man said this to my Grandmother...."Kya matlab?" She clearly knew what he wanted to say and was filled with anger but still tried to confirm (she thought may be he'll understand he said wrong) "I mean Fourth time a girl! That's sad to hear" He said without hesitation....My grandmother was filled with anger to hear this statement of his! My Aunt (Chachi) was blessed with a girl as her first child. "You know why I have four girls in my house? because even God knows that who respects the gift of God! Now i would like you to never come at my house again because i don't want my kids to ever see your face" That was my grandmother's Words in anger! I totally love her for saying that! Mostly we see Elder people asking for a boy child...Expecting a boy child from their daughter-in-laws all the time But my grandmother was different. She knew that bot are 'equal' and believed in the same logic! She always says "humare ghar hi paanch betiyan kyun ayi pata hai? kyunki bhagwan bhi janta hai ki bacchiyon ki kadr kaun karega". Not only for her own daughters and grand daughters she is that way...but even for her daughter-in-laws she has the same feeling. she treats them as her own daughters and loves them. She has a special place for my mother I don't know the reason but she does....Even my mother and father had a love marriage and it was 'Inter-Caste' but she was never against this marriage.....My grandmother is one of A kind woman that anyone would love as a mother, a mother in law, a friend, a wife, a daughter, a sister or any other role...Since my grandfather died before i was born she is playing the roles of both in our family. She has a special soft corner for me.... even my mother doesn't know the reason maybe because i was the second girl child and maybe she had the fear many will criticize it but she loves me a lot and my other sisters too. She is well educated herself and has struggled a lot to teach her 5 children and made them capable to give excellent education to their children. She has taught me lessons of struggle in life to achieve what you want...to love endlessly, to share, and to be a good example for everyone.














(my bua and my smallest sister are still missing in this pic)

As far as my Bua (my father's sister) is concerned. She is the one who has the most love for all of us! she is elder than my father but still unmarried and I don't think she will ever marry anyone....She believes we 5 our her own daughters and has in store endless love and care. She is the one who has pampered us as well as scolded us too. She is the one who always is there to fulfill every wish of ours and she is the one who will scold us first for every mistake of ours too. Just let your words of wish come out of your mouth and the wish has been turned into reality by her! I never understand from where she has acquired so much love for us girls but she never looks dissatisfied with her life! Like every other member of my family she has a short temper as well and i am afraid of it too.....but as soon as she gets angry she forgets it too...!


These are the two ladies in the house I appreciate a lot! I have learned a lot from them. My family i.e. Me , my father, my mother and my sister don't live in my hometown Because of dad's job in other city but every time we visit there we don't feel like we are outside our home. I don't know if the situation had been different if we stayed there and I even don't care about wondering over it but I just love the way everything is. Both mu uncles and aunts are so much loving and caring Have surprises for me and my sisters everytime we visit there and we have a lot of fun there. They treat us as their own kids...never differentiate always have store of love that never gets empty...what more will a person long for?

My mother and father are just superb...I don't have any words to say anything about them. I just can't thank them enough. They have raised me and my sis better than people raise their boys! I know there are always some restrictions Indian parents make to girls...and they have made them too...But I don't complain about it now! They have given us everything we ever wanted...Never demanded anything but just to "Study Well". What more a girl will ever want? My parents are both teachers by profession but never told us if they didn't have enough resources to fulfill our wishes they just did their best every time! Their marriage is Love marriage "Inter Caste" and mostly such marriages don't work out But this case was different! there marriage is just not successful but very famous as the Greatest Pair too.... Not just for us but for others too they have the same love and kindness...And that makes them my "Hero". i can never see tear in their eyes and for that reason I even broke up with a person I loved a lot. He was my BF for 2 years but as my mother came to know about him she cried a lot. She didn't like him and for her sake I broke up.... i don't know it's right or wrong but I can never hurt her. I only have one wish that even after marriage I can live with them and if not I keep doing something for them all the time. They have been role models for many of their students and I am one of them!

I feel proud to have such a great family and I call myself "Blessed". I pray to god that In every birth of mine I am blessed with the same family over and over again.

People say "ladkiyan baap ke kandhon par bhoj k samaan hoti hain" but my family doesn't think that way they have done everything to teach us and to make us capable of supporting ours and their needs Now it's our turn to do our best and give them what they need. And I promise I will do my best Always!

I have only one prayer at the end to god! please bless ever girl with the same family as mine.... I don't know why people kill girls but they really have a special something and that is what i have figured out by seeing every girl and woman i have encountered in my 19 years on this planet. Please give people the wisdom to know the true value of a girl. Let them know how blessed they are. "Ek beta shayad apko apke dukh ke samay chhod ke chala jaye par ek beti humesha apke sath khadi rahegi"

They Have The Same Dreams...the Same Emotions...the Same Desires

"I know I have made a mistake! But what I did was because I loved him", She cried! "Is he not the culprit in all this?", she asked! But no one answered. The society called her a Whore. Just because she was pregnant. 2 months ago she never thought this could ever happen to her! She was totally in love with this boy! But the dark fact lying beneath this relationship, she didn't realise!!!!

"She is too sexy! I just want her! Bas ek baar mil jaye toh maza aa jaye Zindagi ka", he told his friends. "So get her! I bet she will fall for you!Dude you are the EXPERT" & she did! she made the biggest mistake of her life! His Lust won and she was called a Slut! These two words composed of the same 4 alphabets arranged in different manner changed that girls life for once and for all! The society left her no option but to Die!!! No one criticised the boy! Nothing ever changed for him! He still is a playboy! And he doesn't care!





This cruel Male dominated society only criticises women for everything and guys for nothing! Why is it so? Do guys don't have any hand in all this? Just because girls are affected doesn't mean only she is responsible! They just did it all in love! I know it's all wrong. But what can she do??

"Do you love me??" "Yes baby more than myself" "Then why are you saying no" "It's just i am a little afraid!" "Don't be afraid! i am here! You trust me na!" "Yes darling..." This one YES!!!! Only this yes is responsible???? Not that convincing??? Why don't guys understand that love doesn't lie in sex. Love is above it all!!

Actually Society thinks girls are responsible because they wear small dresses. Short skirts, shorts, Capri, even jeans. But why? If these dresses are made it is natural for girls to get attracted to wear them! They wear all these dresses for their love for them and their satisfaction. Not to attract boys!

Few days ago...I was watching "Gumraah" a show telecast on [V] channel. It shows how teenagers of today make mistakes and ruin their life for forever! In one of it's episodes the told how a girl was gang rapped by a gang of boys from a small city...just because she wore small clothes. They had the mentality that girls wear small clothes to attract boys! One small truth they fail to realize that it will ruin her life for forever!!! WHY can't they think before they act? That girl cried "please don't do this" But they didn't listen! Was that a mistake of that girl? No! but the society thought so! And because of that reason her parents were ashamed and didn't complain in the police!

Actually such a mentality in boys is induced by the society itself! Their parents and relatives tell them that girls wear such clothes to attract boys! Now the whole blame comes on society!

Every next day we hear stories of rapes, molestations, Eve teasing, etc. But nothing major action takes place to stop them! In one episode of Gumraah Another Mind boggling story was shown. It was centralized on a girl whose family was very strict! And because of this reason she never talked to any boy. Once a boy in order to propose her gave her a letter she refused the proposal but by mistake kept that letter in her bag! Her brother saw that letter and started blackmailing her! He kept a proposal in front of her! He said that He'll never tell anyone if she kept satisfying his needs! And we all know what his need was! HE even brought his friends home to satisfy 'their needs'. The girl once told her mother about all this! The mother couldn't find any other option and Poisoned her!

Who's to be blamed in all this? The brother? The girl? Or the mother? Or the cruel society that was responsible for that girl's and mother's fear! the society needs to change....We need to change! Only then girls will be able to feel safe in this Nation!!! 

India is rich in it's culture and heritage! Hindus pray to goddesses but fail to understand the importance of Women in real life! Only this awakening needs to be brought in the Society!

We need to ensure that girls feel free to live in this world!!! They don't live with an ever lasting fear in their hearts of being physically tortered by boys or by this cruel society!

My parents Are very strict! they don't allow me to go out with my friends! I used to get very angry about all this! Then they used to tell their pain to me! They told me that it was not them who stopped me! It was their fear...the fear of the cruel society and the Immature mankind! That could harm me!!! I don't blame them now! I really Don't!